Ok....so I have had some issues with my family as far as Abby goes. The problem is.......I don't let her out of my site, she has only been babysat about 10 times in her short 2 year old life. The times she has been babysat is for me to go to the dr, or when I had surgery. We don't ever want to go anywhere without her so we don't get sitters to go on dates.....I know that it is said "you two need date time" I do believe that BUT like we always say" we had 12 yrs alone". Now we just want to be with our child!
So the problem is my family wants to have Abby and I have a problem letting her go, so after many arguements I said I would allow her to spend the night with my mother and nephews (which Abby adores). Abe was not happy but said I won't fight you on this, so we got her ready and took her to my brothers to meet my mom. Oh course I have alot of rules, which my mother follows none!!!! I said don't let her play on the playground at McDonalds, well she did, and Abby did come out ok LOL.
I called alot which made my mom upset, but the bottom line is I trust my mom completely but she is my baby and I have to be aware of EVERYTHING........... I know I have control issues for sure!!!!!!!
Everyone knows this, but I feel like I have to take baby steps to begin to trust someone else with the most important thing in my life.
She had the best time ever and she cried when my mom and the boys left, so I feel good about that, BUT I just don't think this is something I can do all the time. Once in awhile!! Abe and I did have a great day, we went shopping and to dinner. But I was counting the minutes until Abby was home in my arms...............really am I the only person who feels this way??????? I am so torn. I want to do what is right for Abby and allow her to have relationships that she can count on and charish. I think I need some help though, and Abe feels the same as me so that does not help!!!!!
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Oh my gosh Julie, I think I have found my match... You have no idea how many people think Garey and I are crazy because we are exactly the same way with our children. I would NEVER leave Corey when he was a baby with ANYONE, except my mom, and that was only for emergency situations too. I thought I would outgrow this as they got older and it would get easier for... WRONG! I am able to leave a litte easier now that they are all so grown up, but literally I am talking about going out for a night. I still cannot leave them for more than a day or I miss them so darn much. Funny thing is Garey is just like me in regards to this. We love to be with our kids whenever possible. We are planning to go to Hawaii for the first time in 2 years for our 20th wedding anniversary... And YES, we are taking our children with us! I couldn't imaging not being able to see their eyes when they see Hawaii and all its beauty for the first time. That is what I call my dream anniversary. So, you are not alone in this girlie! It is ME too!!!
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